It is all about memories.
"On one hand, painful memories can sometimes help one grow. On the other hand, joyful memories can make one look only backward and forget about moving forward."
True.
It is nearly impossible to expect a life with no bad recollections, but I can't imagine a life void of troubles in our world.
One can isolate oneself as much one wants, but in the end there will come a time to face an unpleasant world.
This may sound sad, but its not the impression I want to give.
You see, to be happy no one needs a life without bad memories. Bad memories serve to learn lessons, to prepare. The longer you keep without experiencing anything bad the greater are the chances of something happening.
But happiness does not reside in the lack of bad memories, but in the presence of good ones. Any moment one should be able to hold on to a good memory, and draw power from your experiences to press on forward into life.
And of course bad memories are not 100% bad. Being able to recall on something bad and see a positive side, or a lesson learned, is the mark of a happy life.
Memories are a basic and necessary part of our lives. They are there to remind us of what is important, of things that are not to be done again and to keep safe the occasional inspiring words one may need on the course of a rough day. They are forgotten, sometimes remembered, sometimes so strong no force can separate it from one's soul.
But a balance must be kept at all times. Drowning in a great memory is as easy as falling into the darkness of the bad memories. One must avoid being overwhelmed by the stronger memories. If you know a formula to do this, share with me.